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Monday, April 9, 2012

Slow and steady.....(is making me crazy) wins the race......

Well, this has been a long hiatus from blogging....  So what has been keeping me so busy—well….many many things—some that make sense and others that are more subtle or less easily understood.

So the house is still a work in progress.  We moved out of the apartment on March 14th and the kids moved into A’s apartment.  They have been doing well, though Josiah asks every day when we are going to move into the new house.  Progress has been slow but steady on the house.  The electric is done as of yesterday and we are waiting for the electrical inspection now, which will hopefully be early this week.  The plumbing should be done in the next day or two, barring any unforeseen issues.  That will be two huge issues out of the way.  Once the electrical inspection is cleared, we can put the other half of the walls on and finish the place.  I am glad that the light at the end of the tunnel might be getting closer.  I would love to predict that we will be done by the end of April and able to get the final inspection and clearance to move in by then, that is my hope.  But this project has reminded me to not expect anything specific and just to roll with what comes—hope for the best but don’t get so set on how it has to play out and in what time frame.  In the end it will be worth it, and that outcome is what I need to focus on, not trying to figure out how each little step is supposed to go.

The kids are doing well, for the most part.  They have both had ups and downs, Gonzo is choosing to bite Josiah at least once every day—and even when I am vigilant about separating them when they are not playing well together, he has now taken to just biting him at random times, just for the heck of it, as he realized if I know that there is a problem, I will be proactive.  Both of them have had ups and downs at school.  We are looking into possible other programs for Josiah for next year.  I will write about hat another time.  We are also getting an evaluation with a neuro-psychologist for Josiah.  I think that will be a good thing, it might give us a better idea of what on earth is going on with him, as his behavior and his super quick mood changes are way beyond what I can understand at this point.  All of my theories have fizzled out, and his outbursts are really interfering with his ability to advance and grow in a healthy and successful way.  He has gotten into such negative behavioral patterns and nothing I have tried is working to help him move beyond it.  So hopefully the neuropsychologist will have be able to shed some light on what is going on with him.

I have been babysitting full time now, as the little ones that I watch have had a schedule change, and their mom took a full time job.  So I no longer have a break in the middle of the day, which has slowed my ability to work on the house.  I also have my kids after school and most day until bedtime at A’s house.  Some days A cooks dinner, but I put them to bed every night.  This means that I don’t have much time in the evenings to work on the house.  So it has meant that almost all of the work aside from weekends and little things that I can do in the evenings, has fallen to my father to work on.  I have been trying to get the spackle and sanding done on the walls that are up in preparation of painting.  I am so looking forward to the final stage and the finished house.  This initial phase from Laundromat to house has been such a process.  I look forward to moving in and moving on the preparation for the daycare phase.  There has been a lot of interest in when the day care will open and how much I will charge.  I am hoping to have some answers to those questions.

So that is where things are in a nutshell.  There are a few other things going on—but they are not really things I want to talk about on the blog.  For now I am just trying to take it day by day, as I have been getting oscillating between overly anxious and somewhat depressed as this process has dragged on so much.  So I am just trying to keep a positive and realistic focus and not get too stuck on expectations of when and how things should be going or how I want them to go.  Trying to remember that it is what it is, and it takes as long as it takes, and roll with whatever happens.  Not always easy, but it is what I am trying to do…..  I hope to write again later this week, hopefully with an update about the inspections….  That would be great….

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