Ya Know.....even when life it stressful, life is still good. There have been a great many things lately that I have been thinking about, which seems to always be my state of being...I am a thinker....I think ALL the time...and I enjoy thinking.
Thinking is not the same as worrying...or stressing....or anything that adds negativity to my life.
Over the past couple of weeks, I have been thinking a lot about many of the experiences currently in my life that do not resonate with my inner being, those things which do not feel good to me on a deeper sense. A couple of weeks ago I defined some of those things in my post "Relieving Stress........!?!". I have been focusing on what feeling I WANT to have and imagining what experiences would help to bring those feelings into my daily life experience. I had detailed some of those in the post I mentioned, and have actively been working on allowing those experiences to enter my reality, doing what I can to open the door to experiencing better feeling things.
So this is the list of experiences I am opening my life to as per the post on February 1, and the ways in which things are moving in the right direction mentioned under each one:
1) The funds to have a smooth transition over the next couple of months
--Funds were generously donated that has greatly helped towards this goal...allowing me and the kids to remain in our apartment for another month while we finish the house, which will give us a much smoother transition overall. Some of the funds also helped alleviate some of the stress around a particular problem that I had not budgeted for and was completely unexpected....so yes, it is a hit that will impact my ability to buy flooring, it is far less stressful because the funds to cover it are available.
2) The house completed with CO in hand, and a smooth move into our new place
--With this I am just continuing to breathe and be grateful for whatever help is given in moving the project closer to completion. Every little bit helps, and it is coming together. I just have to focus on the finished project and know that it will be done in time to make a smooth move over there prior to the Ides of March.
3) A consistent, regular income to support my family
--This I am learning to be patient with this, knowing that as the house is nearing completion I will soon be able to have my inspections and open the childcare center.
4) Pets that behave and find non-destructive ways to express themselves
--Well, they have been behaving better...
5) A vehicle that is in good working order and stays that way
--My car is now repaired and inspected, thanks to my step father. I am very glad to have this nice blue sticker on my windshield that says my car is safe and legal.
6) A consistent sleep each night that allows my body, mind, and spirit its needed rest
--I'm thinking about how to work on this one, stayed up late last night thinking about this one (haha...just kidding). I'll get there someday.....
7) A more mindful approach to eating healthy and nourishing my body in healing ways
--I have reduced the amount of processed food that were in my grocery cart last week (almost none--just cereal, granola bars, and goldfish crackers--all for the kids, and a few cans of soup and stuff) and increased the amount of fresh and frozen vegetables. I have also started drinking my green smoothies (Click) for breakfast again with 2 oz of lean turkey on the side. I think I am going to stick with the simple blending I did today and only add other flavors once in a while. The simple and fine tasting smoothie recipe is: 2 stalks celery, 1 1/2 cups chopped kale, 1 medium size apple, 3 Tbs lemon Juice, 1 Tbs Flax seed, 1 Tbs Spirulina, 5 ice cubes, and 10 oz water. Blend to desired consistency and then drink (today I did not blend enough and had to eat part of it with a spoon as it was very dense). The taste is not bad, and once you get used to it it tastes pretty good. But it makes you feel great. That is a lot of raw plant matter, which has lots of nutrients---very refreshing!!! I am also going back to following a more calorie reduced diet (1800 calories) with limited processed carbohydrates (no bread, crackers, pasta, other processed grains--only rice, oats, potatoes, corn--whole food grains), and unprocessed meats or legumes. I have gotten away from focusing on my physical health, and being overweight, not eating right, not exercising really does have an effect on everything in life. If my body does not feel good, my attitude is poorer, my patience is thinner, my ability to visualize is weaker, and my overall sense of well being is muted. So I am bringing physical health back into the forefront for a while.
8) developing a few close friendships with people who live nearby
--I have been doing a little family therapy with the boys once a week for the past 4 weeks, and the therapist also runs an over eaters/emotional eaters therapy group. I think I am going to start going to that, and meet some people who struggle with some of the things I struggle with so we can move out of it. I am hoping that this will also help to make friendship connections with one or two of the women in the group.
9) Arranging the necessary child care and time to find a social outlet that meets regularly
--Still working on this, A has been great about taking the kids so that I can work on the house or go to appointments. I think I am going to try to arrange that whatever day the over eaters group is on, that the kids stay with A for that night and get on the bus there in the morning, so that I can find a more socially oriented group or club to join down in the little city without having to rush back (the city is an hour away, so evening groups or meeting normally do not work out for me).
10) Creating time and space in my day and mind to replenish and further develop my Spiritual self.
--I have found an interesting online community (its called Second Life) that offers a LOT of different things, most of which I have no desire to explore. I have never really been interested in joining a virtual reality world, as some of the things I have read and seen about them are pretty out there. And while this one does have some really out there stuff, it also has some really great and down to earth people and places. One of the things they do have are some great spiritual places where I can connect with others on similar spiritual paths for conversation, as well as libraries in world that have great spiritual guidance works, places for meditation, and just overall a way to release and explore. I also have done some socializing on other parts of the community (it is like a whole new world, with a wide variety of destinations, themes, games, and ways to connect). I have actually met one person who is a great conversationalist, and I have enjoyed building on online friendship. It has been a while since I have had such stimulating conversation--philosophy, human nature, the power of mind, great books, society in general--we have conversed on a large number of topics. I doubt we will be able to have conversation over coffee anytime in the near future as she and her husband live in France. But it has been great getting to know her and having great conversation, it releases a lot of tension and frees my spirit.
So, yeah....I have been thinking, and following those thought up with action. Life is what we make it, and the way we perceive it. I am continuing to improve both my perception of my life and the experiences that set forth to bring into my life. Every day is a new day to begin again, and move forward....
Monday, February 13, 2012
Monday, February 6, 2012
Ask and it IS Given!!
WOW!! God is Good! I have been squashed under stress lately as my time to be out of the apartment was quickly approaching (2/15) and the house is not going be be done for at least 3-4 weeks, and I did not have the funds to stay in the apartment AND finish the house. So limbo was approaching quickly. I have been trying to find ways to relax about this forthcoming chaos, and to be open to accepting whatever comes. I have been focusing on seeing and feeling myself calm and at peace, seeking to embrace a knowing that everything is going to be okay, no matter what circumstances we find ourselves in. Using the Law of Attraction and the Deliberate Creation that is discussed in the "Ask and It is Given!" book by Esther and Jerry Hicks.
About 10 days ago I put a Chip-in fundraiser link on my website and blog seeking help in bridging this time and money gap. Today I got a huge donation from some old and beloved friends that I have not seen in over a decade. Their generosity has blessed my family so that we do NOT have to be out of the apartment before the house is done, and I should have most of the funds needed to buy the last of the materials for the renovations (maybe even flooring!!). So I feel richly blessed by the people who have helped with this project. My father and brother have put in so much time. Ursula (the owner of the property) has been so flexible and understanding though all the obstacles. Andre has been great about being with the boys so that I can spend the evenings working on eh house. My mom and Jim have been very supportive and helpful, and will be helping a great deal over the next couple of weeks as we do the electric. I am so grateful to everyone who has helped and supported me in this projects and am so grateful that there are people who are able and willing to extend a helping hand to help others meet their needs AND reach for their dreams.
I am richly blessed!!
About 10 days ago I put a Chip-in fundraiser link on my website and blog seeking help in bridging this time and money gap. Today I got a huge donation from some old and beloved friends that I have not seen in over a decade. Their generosity has blessed my family so that we do NOT have to be out of the apartment before the house is done, and I should have most of the funds needed to buy the last of the materials for the renovations (maybe even flooring!!). So I feel richly blessed by the people who have helped with this project. My father and brother have put in so much time. Ursula (the owner of the property) has been so flexible and understanding though all the obstacles. Andre has been great about being with the boys so that I can spend the evenings working on eh house. My mom and Jim have been very supportive and helpful, and will be helping a great deal over the next couple of weeks as we do the electric. I am so grateful to everyone who has helped and supported me in this projects and am so grateful that there are people who are able and willing to extend a helping hand to help others meet their needs AND reach for their dreams.
I am richly blessed!!
Friday, February 3, 2012
A little time to myself....
Okay, so I know I do have breaks in my day which are technically time for myself between the split shift that I work with the kids I babysit, but it lately has been so filled with dealing with things with the new house, school meetings, dr/dentist appointments for the kids, and all sorts of other stuff that have to be done, that it is rarely "me" time. And, as my last post said I have been in dire need of reducing my stress levels. So today I have some time, by myself following an appointment for myself to just be me. I am sitting at the library, like I used to do every day last year, and just enjoying the peace, quiet, and solitude for a little bit before driving back home. A is planning on having the kids for dinner, so there is no reason for me to rush home.
The past few weeks I have been juggling the idea of stepping away from the babysitting and trying to find a job that provides a better income. Now that my savings are depleted and the house is no where near ready, so the opening date of the daycare is still a long way off (which when this all started a few months ago, I had figured out and planned that the house would be done and daycare registration approved by the state at about the same time that my saving ran out, which would have been fine, as I could have then been in the position to increase my income through the daycare. But alas, we are still at least a month from finishing the house, and at least 2 months (as I have to wait for the house to be done to even finish the paperwork to schedule the home inspections) from completing all of the inspections and licensing requirements for the day care (probably more). So the $80 a week I make babysitting is just not going to be able to carry us through the next few months, even with the boys' subsidies. So I am trying to make a hard decision...the decision to try to figure out other gainful employment and thus strand one of my potential daycare families until it opens so that I can make enough to live on, or to just try to keep squeaking forward with that I've got and pray that it will be enough to build the bridge between the depletion of the savings and the time that the daycare starts paying for itself and my family's needs.
I have been looking at the online writing that I used to do and I am not at a high enough income level with it to even replace the babysitting dollar for dollar, so that is not an option really. I think I am going to have to start applying for other jobs, but the area I live in has so few this time of year, so I will be branching out down to this area (where I am sitting int the library over an hour from home), and I have to make enough to offset the costs of fuel and childcare, or it is a moot point. So I am juggling and searching, and seeking a resolution to this issue, at least for the short term until things are such that the daycare can be opened.
In short term hindsight, I wish I had not taken on this massive project. i am hoping that a year from now I will look back with a longer term hindsight and say that this period of stress and uncertainty was worth it, and that I made the right decision to invest in my future in this particular way. (I know, I have a bunch of oddly structured sentences in this post).
So, anyway... I am going to return to surfing the want ads and see if I can come up with a few leads that will help alleviate some of the overlapping issues that I face right now, as finding and affording childcare for two kids with special needs is a challenge AND getting a job that allows the time off that I need in order to get them to all of their appointments (can you imagine any employer that would have given me the 16 half-days that I had to take off during the month of January for various necessary appointments fro the kids?!?). Boy do I miss my days at Cornell and the flexibility in scheduling that both Ed and Steve allowed me, as I could make up the hours in the evenings or weekends....
The past few weeks I have been juggling the idea of stepping away from the babysitting and trying to find a job that provides a better income. Now that my savings are depleted and the house is no where near ready, so the opening date of the daycare is still a long way off (which when this all started a few months ago, I had figured out and planned that the house would be done and daycare registration approved by the state at about the same time that my saving ran out, which would have been fine, as I could have then been in the position to increase my income through the daycare. But alas, we are still at least a month from finishing the house, and at least 2 months (as I have to wait for the house to be done to even finish the paperwork to schedule the home inspections) from completing all of the inspections and licensing requirements for the day care (probably more). So the $80 a week I make babysitting is just not going to be able to carry us through the next few months, even with the boys' subsidies. So I am trying to make a hard decision...the decision to try to figure out other gainful employment and thus strand one of my potential daycare families until it opens so that I can make enough to live on, or to just try to keep squeaking forward with that I've got and pray that it will be enough to build the bridge between the depletion of the savings and the time that the daycare starts paying for itself and my family's needs.
I have been looking at the online writing that I used to do and I am not at a high enough income level with it to even replace the babysitting dollar for dollar, so that is not an option really. I think I am going to have to start applying for other jobs, but the area I live in has so few this time of year, so I will be branching out down to this area (where I am sitting int the library over an hour from home), and I have to make enough to offset the costs of fuel and childcare, or it is a moot point. So I am juggling and searching, and seeking a resolution to this issue, at least for the short term until things are such that the daycare can be opened.
In short term hindsight, I wish I had not taken on this massive project. i am hoping that a year from now I will look back with a longer term hindsight and say that this period of stress and uncertainty was worth it, and that I made the right decision to invest in my future in this particular way. (I know, I have a bunch of oddly structured sentences in this post).
So, anyway... I am going to return to surfing the want ads and see if I can come up with a few leads that will help alleviate some of the overlapping issues that I face right now, as finding and affording childcare for two kids with special needs is a challenge AND getting a job that allows the time off that I need in order to get them to all of their appointments (can you imagine any employer that would have given me the 16 half-days that I had to take off during the month of January for various necessary appointments fro the kids?!?). Boy do I miss my days at Cornell and the flexibility in scheduling that both Ed and Steve allowed me, as I could make up the hours in the evenings or weekends....
Wednesday, February 1, 2012
Relieving stress...!?!
Well, I have read (and written) many articles on different techniques to manage stress, and you know, sometimes all of the knowledge in the world is useless when I have trouble applying the techniques and principles of stress reduction to my life.
I have to admit, I have been stressed almost to my breaking point over the past week. the term "nervous breakdown" kept coming to mind ...
Between financial pressure, the stress of the house renovations, the looming time line of having to be out of the apartment around the 15th and being no where near done with the house (and without the funds to continue to pay for both places), my car being out of commission while my step father repairs the brakes and power steering so I can get it inspected (it was due in November), thus having to finagle my schedule and transportation needs with A for the week (it is amazing when you can be friends with your ex), and then the added stress of having to make sure the apartment was looking nice and neat for the landlord to show to prospective renters---well, it really has just been almost too much. Top that off with the cat peeing on the easy chair and Josiah's coat (which was on the chair) last night, so that even with cleaning the chair as well as I could on short notice, and burning scented candles all morning, the house still smelled horrible when the landlord showed the apartment. Right now the chair cushion is outside int eh rain hoping to let nature wash out some of the smell. If I can't get the smell out, I may have to say goodbye to the chair. Josiah's coat I will wash 2-3 times to remove the smell (hopefully) once I get quarters.
Anyway, all of these stressors have combined with the following list of issues to just zap my strength and my motivation to practice beneficial and useful stress reduction techniques:
1) my lack of sleep (running at about 3- 4 hours a night lately),
2) my poor attention to my dietary intake (being an emotional eater and not having as much healthy food in the house--and WAY too many carbs, which is not good for a type 2 person...),
3) my lack of a regular exercise program (I miss my daily hour long walks that I used to do when I was in GF all day),
4) my poignant lack of friends that live closer than 6 hours away that I could potentially spend time with,
5) my lack of a social life of any kind, and
6) my sorely depleted spiritual reserves
So this is a post essentially focused in the wrong direction. I am focusing on what I DO NOT want in my life experience right now, and thus am drawing more of those experiences to me. As the Abraham-Hicks people teach though, these are the times when we are recognizing what we do NOT want so that in contrast we can further define what we DO want, and thus move forward with a clearer, more refined picture of what we are wanting to be created in our lives. So I will be counting this past week as a week of finding clarity, and move forward from here knowing that what I pray for my upcoming experiences are:
1) The funds to have a smooth transition over the next couple of months
2) The house completed with CO in hand, and a smooth move into our new place
3) A consistent, regular income to support my family
4) Pets that behave and find non-destructive ways to express themselves
5) A vehicle that is in good working order and stays that way
6) A consistent sleep each night that allows my body, mind, and spirit its needed rest
7) A more mindful approach to eating healthy and nourishing my body in healing ways
8) developing a few close friendships with people who live nearby
9) Arranging the necessary child care and time to find a social outlet that meets regularly
10) Creating time and space in my day and mind to replenish and further develop my Spiritual self.
So I am now breathing and refocusing my attention towards thoughts that relieve my stress. I would love to hear from some of you, my readers, about things that you do to reduce stress and gain a better attitude and more peaceful focus during times of challenge. Please leave me some suggestions in the comments! I know that given time and discipline, I will feel far more calm and relaxed about everything going on, and hopefully find a stronger motivation and joy in the adventure that this life brings...
I have to admit, I have been stressed almost to my breaking point over the past week. the term "nervous breakdown" kept coming to mind ...
Between financial pressure, the stress of the house renovations, the looming time line of having to be out of the apartment around the 15th and being no where near done with the house (and without the funds to continue to pay for both places), my car being out of commission while my step father repairs the brakes and power steering so I can get it inspected (it was due in November), thus having to finagle my schedule and transportation needs with A for the week (it is amazing when you can be friends with your ex), and then the added stress of having to make sure the apartment was looking nice and neat for the landlord to show to prospective renters---well, it really has just been almost too much. Top that off with the cat peeing on the easy chair and Josiah's coat (which was on the chair) last night, so that even with cleaning the chair as well as I could on short notice, and burning scented candles all morning, the house still smelled horrible when the landlord showed the apartment. Right now the chair cushion is outside int eh rain hoping to let nature wash out some of the smell. If I can't get the smell out, I may have to say goodbye to the chair. Josiah's coat I will wash 2-3 times to remove the smell (hopefully) once I get quarters.
Anyway, all of these stressors have combined with the following list of issues to just zap my strength and my motivation to practice beneficial and useful stress reduction techniques:
1) my lack of sleep (running at about 3- 4 hours a night lately),
2) my poor attention to my dietary intake (being an emotional eater and not having as much healthy food in the house--and WAY too many carbs, which is not good for a type 2 person...),
3) my lack of a regular exercise program (I miss my daily hour long walks that I used to do when I was in GF all day),
4) my poignant lack of friends that live closer than 6 hours away that I could potentially spend time with,
5) my lack of a social life of any kind, and
6) my sorely depleted spiritual reserves
So this is a post essentially focused in the wrong direction. I am focusing on what I DO NOT want in my life experience right now, and thus am drawing more of those experiences to me. As the Abraham-Hicks people teach though, these are the times when we are recognizing what we do NOT want so that in contrast we can further define what we DO want, and thus move forward with a clearer, more refined picture of what we are wanting to be created in our lives. So I will be counting this past week as a week of finding clarity, and move forward from here knowing that what I pray for my upcoming experiences are:
1) The funds to have a smooth transition over the next couple of months
2) The house completed with CO in hand, and a smooth move into our new place
3) A consistent, regular income to support my family
4) Pets that behave and find non-destructive ways to express themselves
5) A vehicle that is in good working order and stays that way
6) A consistent sleep each night that allows my body, mind, and spirit its needed rest
7) A more mindful approach to eating healthy and nourishing my body in healing ways
8) developing a few close friendships with people who live nearby
9) Arranging the necessary child care and time to find a social outlet that meets regularly
10) Creating time and space in my day and mind to replenish and further develop my Spiritual self.
So I am now breathing and refocusing my attention towards thoughts that relieve my stress. I would love to hear from some of you, my readers, about things that you do to reduce stress and gain a better attitude and more peaceful focus during times of challenge. Please leave me some suggestions in the comments! I know that given time and discipline, I will feel far more calm and relaxed about everything going on, and hopefully find a stronger motivation and joy in the adventure that this life brings...
Saturday, January 28, 2012
framing almost done...Can you help?
Well, the framing in the new place is almost done. I will try to remember to bring my camera today so that I can actually take couple of pictures. I had planned to do before and after shots, but still have not remembered my camera. The framing for the bathroom floor is in now, complete with the ramp supports. It is goign to be so amazing to have a handicap accessible home for Josiah! I ams o excited for him to have a space that is truly one where he can be more independent and has access to all parts of the house. I have dreamed about this for a long time for him. Hopefully the plumbing and electric will come together quickly so we can get the inspections done ASAP. My time is running out. There will be someone here at the apartment to look at it on Wednesday. So I am going to be speeding up my packing and cleaning, as well as planning for the very real potential that I will not have my certificate of occupancy at the house before I have to be out of the apartment (lease is up Feb 15). So the kids will have to live with A in the mean time, and I will probably stay at my Dad's house. I hate to put the kids in limbo like that, but this has taken so much longer (four months instead of two), and my savings are all used up (literally), so I can not afford to pay for two places any longer, and am struggling to find the funds to buy the last of the materials needed to complete the house.
I am going to ask you, my loyal readers, for a large favor. Due to some circumstances beyond my control, I have run short on the funds I need to complete the house (particularly due to the dual housing costs, the high cost of Workers Comp insurance (which I had not budgeted for) and the multiple trips I have had to take to GF this month for all the dental appointments for Josiah and for the trips for the day care training. On the right hand side of this blog, there is a place to Chip in and make a donation, and I am asking anyone who can, to please help me raise the funds to finish the house so that the kids and I are not floating in limbo for too long, and so we don't get so far behind on payments that we end up losing the house and all of the monies, times, sweat and dreams that have gone into it thus far. I know this is not a good foot to start a new business from, but in the long run, it will be a definite asset to my family's stability. Currently I make enough each month to just meet our basic expenses and needs (in ONE house), and I have invested over $7,000 into the house and day care business. If you can help us reach the last $1,000 needed to complete the house and the final certification needs for the day care, you will be helping a family get back on their feet for financial stability. You will also be helping me to provide a needed service for my town in providing state registered, well trained day care for the children so that parents can have an affordable, safe place for the kids while they work. Thank you in advance for your generousity and your willingness to help others, like me, fulfill their dreams.
Thank you,
Heather
I am going to ask you, my loyal readers, for a large favor. Due to some circumstances beyond my control, I have run short on the funds I need to complete the house (particularly due to the dual housing costs, the high cost of Workers Comp insurance (which I had not budgeted for) and the multiple trips I have had to take to GF this month for all the dental appointments for Josiah and for the trips for the day care training. On the right hand side of this blog, there is a place to Chip in and make a donation, and I am asking anyone who can, to please help me raise the funds to finish the house so that the kids and I are not floating in limbo for too long, and so we don't get so far behind on payments that we end up losing the house and all of the monies, times, sweat and dreams that have gone into it thus far. I know this is not a good foot to start a new business from, but in the long run, it will be a definite asset to my family's stability. Currently I make enough each month to just meet our basic expenses and needs (in ONE house), and I have invested over $7,000 into the house and day care business. If you can help us reach the last $1,000 needed to complete the house and the final certification needs for the day care, you will be helping a family get back on their feet for financial stability. You will also be helping me to provide a needed service for my town in providing state registered, well trained day care for the children so that parents can have an affordable, safe place for the kids while they work. Thank you in advance for your generousity and your willingness to help others, like me, fulfill their dreams.
Thank you,
Heather
Wednesday, January 25, 2012
Has it really been a whole week!...
Wow!! Has it really been a whole week since I last posted!!
Life has been gloriously busy--The renovations are moving forward at about the pace they have been. The framing is almost completed, the plumbing is coming together, and the electric will be tackled soon. Then the three preliminary inspections can be approved, and we can finish her. That is something I am looking forward to with great relief and appreciation.
I have also completed the Health and Safety Training course required for the day care licensing procedure. I still have my basic routine, developmentally appropriate teaching, and discipline plans still to complete and send in. I have some issues with brevity, and am trying to figure out how to respond to the inquiries in the application packet that both satisfies what I want to say AND fits in the small space they provide for the answers. Aside from that and getting their medical forms to my doctor and the kids doctor to sign off, I just have the floor plan layout and evacuation route plan, which I hesitate to finish until after the framing inspection in case we need to alter anything. So it is mostly just paperwork left. I do need to update my First Aid and CPR certification, but that is a one day course. So there is still a bunch to do, but the end of the tunnel is in sight.
The kids are doing well. Gonzo is going to be Student of the Month in his class (the teacher emailed me yesterday), as he has been having an outstanding month, many Outstanding Day Orange ratings for the month. Josiah has been doing great with school lately. He still has some outbursts but, they seems to be less intense, less frequent, and the teachers have been able to help him turn the corner and come back into a better frame of mind. He also has been doing more academic work, and they have been scribing more for him, which makes a difference.
Josiah also had another dentist appointment yesterday, and he did great!! We have one final appointment to fix the last of the issues, and the hardest ones. So next Thursday will be the last treatment in a long nearly 2 year saga of getting his dental work done. Dr. Baim has been incredible with him. I am very pleased with how comfortable she makes him feel.
I also have been doing some cleaning at the apartment, since my lease is technically up on February 15th. I deep cleaned the bathroom the other day, replaced the toilet seat, which I have been meaning to do for a while now, and scrubbed behind and under everything, I even washed the walls and door. So, one room down. I also have been sorting and packing the boys clothes so that the only thing we have to move at the last minute are the sets of clothes they wear to school. If I can get a bunch of packing and sorting done now, then the move in 3 weeks will go much better, especially if we have not gotten the certificate of occupancy by then and the boys have to live with A for a couple of weeks while we finish the house.
Speaking of A, we had a great visit this weekend with A's sister who came for an overnight visit. It was great to see her, and the boys love her dearly. A has been doing okay. One client has left the area though, and so A's caseload dropped, and is a bit worried about making ends meet. Hopefully a couple of people will be added soon, so that that A will not have to worry. A has also been great about taking the kids, though not without some guilt-tripping, it has been a good thing to know the kids are safe and having fun while I am spending many evenings working on the new place for them.
So that is a basic recap of what I have been rolling with over the past week. I am looking forward to a highly productive week/weekend to get as much done as possible on the house. If we can get the preliminary inspections next week, the walls and finishing should come together pretty quickly. I hope to post more than once a week, so hopefully I'll have a short update for you all over the weekend.
Life has been gloriously busy--The renovations are moving forward at about the pace they have been. The framing is almost completed, the plumbing is coming together, and the electric will be tackled soon. Then the three preliminary inspections can be approved, and we can finish her. That is something I am looking forward to with great relief and appreciation.
I have also completed the Health and Safety Training course required for the day care licensing procedure. I still have my basic routine, developmentally appropriate teaching, and discipline plans still to complete and send in. I have some issues with brevity, and am trying to figure out how to respond to the inquiries in the application packet that both satisfies what I want to say AND fits in the small space they provide for the answers. Aside from that and getting their medical forms to my doctor and the kids doctor to sign off, I just have the floor plan layout and evacuation route plan, which I hesitate to finish until after the framing inspection in case we need to alter anything. So it is mostly just paperwork left. I do need to update my First Aid and CPR certification, but that is a one day course. So there is still a bunch to do, but the end of the tunnel is in sight.
The kids are doing well. Gonzo is going to be Student of the Month in his class (the teacher emailed me yesterday), as he has been having an outstanding month, many Outstanding Day Orange ratings for the month. Josiah has been doing great with school lately. He still has some outbursts but, they seems to be less intense, less frequent, and the teachers have been able to help him turn the corner and come back into a better frame of mind. He also has been doing more academic work, and they have been scribing more for him, which makes a difference.
Josiah also had another dentist appointment yesterday, and he did great!! We have one final appointment to fix the last of the issues, and the hardest ones. So next Thursday will be the last treatment in a long nearly 2 year saga of getting his dental work done. Dr. Baim has been incredible with him. I am very pleased with how comfortable she makes him feel.
I also have been doing some cleaning at the apartment, since my lease is technically up on February 15th. I deep cleaned the bathroom the other day, replaced the toilet seat, which I have been meaning to do for a while now, and scrubbed behind and under everything, I even washed the walls and door. So, one room down. I also have been sorting and packing the boys clothes so that the only thing we have to move at the last minute are the sets of clothes they wear to school. If I can get a bunch of packing and sorting done now, then the move in 3 weeks will go much better, especially if we have not gotten the certificate of occupancy by then and the boys have to live with A for a couple of weeks while we finish the house.
Speaking of A, we had a great visit this weekend with A's sister who came for an overnight visit. It was great to see her, and the boys love her dearly. A has been doing okay. One client has left the area though, and so A's caseload dropped, and is a bit worried about making ends meet. Hopefully a couple of people will be added soon, so that that A will not have to worry. A has also been great about taking the kids, though not without some guilt-tripping, it has been a good thing to know the kids are safe and having fun while I am spending many evenings working on the new place for them.
So that is a basic recap of what I have been rolling with over the past week. I am looking forward to a highly productive week/weekend to get as much done as possible on the house. If we can get the preliminary inspections next week, the walls and finishing should come together pretty quickly. I hope to post more than once a week, so hopefully I'll have a short update for you all over the weekend.
Wednesday, January 18, 2012
CRAZY Week!>>>
This has been a crazy week. Well the last couple of weeks have been crazy. Between dentist appointments, other appointments, required trainings (an hour away, six hours a day) for the day care license, and the renovations of the house, it has been absolutely crazy.
The renovations are moving along. We have the plumbing drains laid out, still need to lay out the actual water pipes, but those are easier. The framing for everything is just about ready for the framing inspection. We are hoping to get the plumbing and electric done so that the three inspections can be done at the same time. After that, up goes the sheet rock, then taping and spackling, painting, flooring and the final inspection. We have not had as much time as I had hoped to work on it. I was hoping we would have 4-5 days a week, at least 4 hours each day. But it has been a lot of hit or miss, with 2-3 days a week, some with short 2 hour days, others with 7 hour days. I am still hopeful that we will make my deadline of February 15th to be moved out of here and into the new place. We just will not have a long to move and clean as I had hoped. I know it might be a bit tight, but I think if we can keep focused, it will happen. My goal, if my father can be there for most of it as I need his know how, is to finish the windows, the plumbing and the floor joists for the bathroom this week. Next week I am hoping we can get eh fire wall framing and all of the electrical done (then we can get the inspections done hopefully by the 27th). With a few extra hands we should be able to get the sheet rock up that first week in February, and most of the taping and spackling. Then we have about a week to paint and put down carpet to get the final inspection by Feb13th. Okay, so it may not quite work out that way, but I am hoping.
Today I pick the kids up from school early and we go to see a family therapist. I have been trying to get us into family therapy for a while, but the one up here just was not very useful, for one she decided that since the kids have counseling at school, she did not think they should participate in our family counseling. There is obviously a lack of understanding of what school counseling is, as it is not to address overall problems, but rather focuses on specific issues relating to school that need work. And everything I talked about in addressing the behavioral issues at home, she just said I was doing a great job and offered a few minimal suggestions. Nothing that really helped look at the dynamics of the family and how the kids special needs and behaviors were impacting each other and the family as a whole,. nor how my interaction with them was impacting my relationship with each one and impacting their relationships with each other. So we are going down to the nearest city and hour away and seeing if there is a more helpful therapist who can help us create more peace and cooperation in the household, as well as benefit improving behavior at school and other public places.
So, that's all for now...
The renovations are moving along. We have the plumbing drains laid out, still need to lay out the actual water pipes, but those are easier. The framing for everything is just about ready for the framing inspection. We are hoping to get the plumbing and electric done so that the three inspections can be done at the same time. After that, up goes the sheet rock, then taping and spackling, painting, flooring and the final inspection. We have not had as much time as I had hoped to work on it. I was hoping we would have 4-5 days a week, at least 4 hours each day. But it has been a lot of hit or miss, with 2-3 days a week, some with short 2 hour days, others with 7 hour days. I am still hopeful that we will make my deadline of February 15th to be moved out of here and into the new place. We just will not have a long to move and clean as I had hoped. I know it might be a bit tight, but I think if we can keep focused, it will happen. My goal, if my father can be there for most of it as I need his know how, is to finish the windows, the plumbing and the floor joists for the bathroom this week. Next week I am hoping we can get eh fire wall framing and all of the electrical done (then we can get the inspections done hopefully by the 27th). With a few extra hands we should be able to get the sheet rock up that first week in February, and most of the taping and spackling. Then we have about a week to paint and put down carpet to get the final inspection by Feb13th. Okay, so it may not quite work out that way, but I am hoping.
Today I pick the kids up from school early and we go to see a family therapist. I have been trying to get us into family therapy for a while, but the one up here just was not very useful, for one she decided that since the kids have counseling at school, she did not think they should participate in our family counseling. There is obviously a lack of understanding of what school counseling is, as it is not to address overall problems, but rather focuses on specific issues relating to school that need work. And everything I talked about in addressing the behavioral issues at home, she just said I was doing a great job and offered a few minimal suggestions. Nothing that really helped look at the dynamics of the family and how the kids special needs and behaviors were impacting each other and the family as a whole,. nor how my interaction with them was impacting my relationship with each one and impacting their relationships with each other. So we are going down to the nearest city and hour away and seeing if there is a more helpful therapist who can help us create more peace and cooperation in the household, as well as benefit improving behavior at school and other public places.
So, that's all for now...
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